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Losing the America's Cup sucks .....but... winning is amazing!


I am sure like me, you were  on a roller coaster this week during the sailing of the America’s Cup, and the gutted feeling when it ended in defeat for Team NZ last time. This will have been a subject of discussion with your children.

Peter Burling and the Team NZ team were brilliant!
So was Jimmy Spittal in defeat.

Knowing how to handle defeat is a life skill that will challenge the mettle of a man and is a parenting challenge to every father whose children are involved in competitive sport.
Showing humility and strength in the face of defeat was modeled to us this week by Jimmy Spittal and offered us all a teachable moment within our family.

When our children are ‘on the bench’, as it were, in any endeavour – sitting beside them - feeling what they feel –and then giving them the right messages to get off the bench when it is time and back into the game, is every parent's challenge.
When our children were young we had Rudyard Kipling’s poem 'IF' on the wall of the bathroom – and the lines have become a message of encouragement to show courage in the face of hardship.

Here are some of my favourite lines:

If you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, but make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, or being lied about, don't deal in lies, or being hated, don't give way to hating, and yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;
If you can dream and not make dreams your master;
If you can think and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster and treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, or walk with Kings nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds' worth of distance run, 
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - what's is more - you'll be a Man, my son!
Rudyard Kipling